TAKE OVER BLOG!

Asalamualaykum Warahmatullah, 

Todays blog will be written my sister. 

The Media and Islam 

Two things that co-exist together side by side.

However the media is stereotyping Islam and associating all of us with the extremist group Isis.

This misconception is one that needs to be cleared up as people seem to be believing everything the media is telling them about how Isis is ALL Muslims and that Islam is the reason behind all of these attacks when in fact they are just using it as a scapegoat for their actions that, if you think about it, have no real reason to be carried out. 

This whole situation is so ridiculous and to make it worse, the government have bombed Syria hoping to rid the world of Isis. They have done these actions without thinking of the consequences/how Isis are going to retaliate. 

What if they decide to bomb Britain?

What if they do something even worse?

What if?

This is a situation that effects all of us Muslims today in our day to day lives and I feel that all the decisions that the government makes to try and make it better, will only backfire and result in a bigger catastrophe. This is a topic that my friends and i seem to talk about quite a lot and they agree that the government and the world is so messed up right now. They also think that if this carries on they way it is, then we may end up in world war 3.

There is a debate/speech done by Mehdi Hasan called 'Islam is a religion of peace' that highlights all of these points that I've made and more in much more detail.  If you have just 10 or more minutes to spare please listen to not only his side of the arguments but also the opposing sides arguments to get the whole picture of what they think about the topic. 

Sumayah xx

BLOG UPDATES

Asalamualaykum Warahmatullah,

Just a quick message: 

So I was thinking that I need more of a schedule with regards to my blog so that I remain consistent insha'Allah.

I haven't got an exact day yet, but I was thinking Sundays but I might try and post more. 

If theres any recommendation on topics please let me know that would be helpful so I have an idea of what you would like to see. 

Thanks guys! 

See you later. 

12 THINGS I HATE ABOUT ME

Asalamualaykum Warahmatullah, 

Today I thought I would write about 12 things I hate about me. 

Not that I hate myself - just things I want to change or I don't particularly like. 

So here we go ..

1. Unforgiving - I find it very very difficult to forgive someone once they have done something towards me. 

2. Stubborn - I am incredibly stubborn when it comes to certain events. If I know I am right in something, I cant let it go and let someone else just have their moment. I have to prove that I am right. This only mainly happens towards family members. 

3. Trusting - I don't know if this is a good or bad quality, but I trust people very quickly, and then realise my mistake later on. I can pretty much create a conversation by opening up first, and sometimes that doesn't play well in the long run. But - you never know. 

4. Unmotivated - I can be motivated sometimes, but it comes and goes in phases. I wish I could remain motivated for long periods of time to accomplish something. I feel like I lose motivation like some people lose their keys. Especially if its something that I know I want to accomplish, but I have to sit down with myself and remind myself why I wanted to do something in the first place.

5. Worried - I feel like I'm constantly worried about others, how they might feel if I do something etc. I feel like this limits me when I want to do something. I am constantly thinking about how it would affect other people, whether people would feel left out, whether they might not like it. And generally its things that I would enjoy. I do find it unfair, especially if the people whose reaction I worry about, freely do as they please. This links to.. 

6. Over-thinker - I constantly overthink everything. Even if its something that doesn't need overthinking about. For example age. 

7. Double Chin - If there was a magical way to get rid of a double chin, hit me up

8. Past - I am not a fan of who I used to be, but then, I wouldn't be who I am now.

9. Control - I feel like because of certain events, I need to be in control. I feel like I can only rely on myself to do things properly, on time and make sure things are done. I only say this because I know that some people around me never take responsibility. Plus I feel like people push responsibility onto me so I have no choice but to deal with it in a way that I know how.

10. Making Decisions - I cant make decisions when I am with other people. I would much rather do what others wanted to do. Which could be a good thing. 

11. Not Saying Yes - I have been getting better at this but I find it hard to say yes just like that if it interrupts my schedule. Which is linked with control, but I find it difficult to do something if it wasn't planned.

12. I clearly don't hate that much of myself haha. 

So there is my list of things I don't like. 

Some of you might be surprised that there may not be a lot of image oriented comments. 

But the thing about image is that everyone is different. I don't aim to have a body like someone else. 

That doesn't mean I am happy with it, but it doesn't mean I don't like it either. 

I don't agree with image and this obsession with having to look a certain way all the time. Just live your life. We don't have forever to be concerned about it. 

I'm sure that at the end of the day, image is the least of our priorities. 

THOUGHTS BEFORE 2016.

Asalamualaykum Warahmatullah, 

It is currently 00:39am of Sunday 27th December 2015. 

What is my position right this second?

Well, I am sitting on my mattress, on the floor, at home, with my laptop on my cushion, on my bent left leg which I am about to swap to my right, with the pitter patter of the rain outside. 

What is my wider position? 

Well, I have an assignment for my Psychology of Creativity module due in January, my dissertation waiting for me to begin, my 3 week christmas holiday running away from me. 

My last semester of university is fast approaching. 

I am constantly worrying. Not about my work, not about anything except time.

Why does it bother me so much?

Maybe it has something to do with control. Time is so out of my control that I don't know how to handle it. If only clocks and time, and dates didn't exist. 

It gets worse when things that I am used to begin to end or change. 

It gets worse when I think about it earlier than its time.

I wish we could grasp every moment and store it in a jar, only to revisit it. 

Thank god for cameras and videos, but they're simply not enough. 

For me when the change has happened and I settle in something else I am fine, its just the time up to a changing event, especially when I don't know what comes next, that gets to me. 

The past number of years have been comforting. At least I know that I have somewhere to go back to, something to look forward to. But now I don't know.

What do I have to do?

Enjoy the next few months.

Make the most of every moment, occasion, event.

Live them and enjoy them. 

Understand that life goes on until it doesn't anymore. 

La illaha illalah.

There is no God but Allah

Muhammadan Rasoolullah

Muhammad (pbuh) is His Messenger. 

The time is now 00:49. 

I guess I knew what I had to say. 

GRABBING LIFE BY THE HORNS.

Asalamualaykum Warahmatullah, 

All my life I have felt as though I have put myself into a caged box, worried about things that others would usually jump and be excited about. 

I worry that if I say yes, then someone else would disapprove. 

I worry that if I say yes then someone else will be affected.

I worry that if I say yes, then I cant talk about what it is that I enjoyed. 

I worry that if I say yes that others wont be happy for me they'd just be like 'aw' but nothing else. 

I worry about others. 

I generally don't care about what others think of me or what they might say about me. 

I am always happy when others enjoy themselves and tell me all about it. 

However, I do care when I do something that is exciting for me but I worry about telling others about it. 

I don't fully know why, or what it is. 

But I wish I could ignore it. 

I wish I was able to do things on a whim. 

I want to get better and not worrying about what others might think, or whether others might feel left out, or whether they wish they could come along. 

I just feel concerned constantly. 

I feel like I build this anxiety up in myself without necessarily having a clear stimulant. 

I feel like this feeling is always stronger when it concerns family. 

I need to relax, and not worry. But how do you do that if that is what first comes to my mind? 

I feel constantly conflicted. 

HOW WELL DO I KNOW A FRIEND?

Asalamualaykum Warahmatullah, 

Today, as a tribute to my friend Maria, who is so gassed right now, I decided that I would write this blog to make her day and cheer her up a little. 

What I have decided to do, is set up a number of questions which I will answer down below, and post it up regardless of whether I have got the right answer or not, but I will try my very best.

1. When and How Did We First Meet?

Maria and I met when me and my bestie Zubeda were looking for a flatmate. I had initially seen her message that contacted me and so we had a conversation that literally was formal.

However we first met during the summer holidays of 2015 where I came to London to meet her and we went to dinner, where she began crying as she was telling us her life story. But to me that was a relief because I am generally an open book so it was nice that she opened up to which let me open up also. 

2. What is One Food That She Cant Live Without?

Maria is in love with dessert. That is all I have to say. 

3. What Do You Most Admire About Your Friend?

One of the things that I admire about Maria is her strength with regards to doing what she thinks is right. I think in a way, her environment has given her so much freedom that she could have gone down different routes but she has stuck to her guns and religion and alhamdullilah I admire how she has put self-control on herself which is something that is generally difficult to do. 

4. What Favourite Memory Do You Two Share?

Although I haven't known Maria for that long, I feel like i've known her forever, which can be a positive. There have been multiple funny times thus far. One of the funniest would be when she just started crying on cue as she tried to justify why she missed work to her boss. 

Another time would be us pranking out family members by saying that we got arrested and we were charged with carrying cannabis. 

And also silly pranks such as scaring each other and her trying to fit into a hanger. 

5. What is Your Friend Really Bad At?

Organisation and patience

6. What Does Your Friend Think About The Most?

Her future and how she can make her family happy. 

7. What is Your Friends Worst Habits?

Probably simple things such as switching lights off or closing the microwave door! 

8. What is Your Friends Favourite Animal?

CATS CATS CATS CATS CATS CATS CATS CATS CATS CATS CATS CATS CATS 

9. What Are Three Things That You Friend Carries Around With Them?

Her purse/ card holder

Phone

I would say keys but it seems that she has a habit of forgetting them. 

Coat 

10. If There Was Something You Could Change About Her What Would It Be?

I wouldn't change her as a person, I would hope that she wouldn't let little things get her down. Maria has a habit of hearing something from say a friend or family about herself and feels the need to change right there and then even though that thing might hurt her. 

I hope that she gains the confidence to know that she is a great person and that she is who she is and that she is comfortable with that, and if she is to ever better herself it would be for the sake of Allah and herself. 

Lost for words.

Asalamualaykum Warahmatullah,

What can I say that will make anything better.

What can be said that will stop all of this stupidity, hypocrisy and pain.

Who do we think we are. 

How can we blame a country for a groups action.

How can we be hypocrites.

How can we think that this will stop everything.

This is just the beginning of the end.

Why is no-one using their brains?

How has noone applied this to themselves? 

Why do they think they are free of comparison?

What have they not thought that this could happen to anyone, and that Britain is just lucky that it has not been connected to the idiotic groups of this country? 

How can you kill innocents and sleep peacefully at night?

How would you feel? 

Really

How would you feel?

Absolutely gutted. 

Absolutely useless.

Absolutely lost.