LOVE, LUST OR MARRIAGE

Asalamualaykum Warahmatullah,

We live in a society where marriage is either disliked or desperately wanted. 

One of the biggest things that people seek out is wanting to love and be loved. 

This could then lead to marriage more so for security purposes that you are bound to someone.

Others seek out lust, and one night relationships that last for a few hours, or a few days before they move on.

What is more important?

Quantity, or quality.

Personally, I would look more to quality and respect a whole lot more than quantity. 

Its about the long term. 

Imagine you have a whole load of quantity but then want the quality, then what are you left with when you need to prove your commitment. 

Its complicated. 

I believe that marriage isn't bound by love, its bound my Commitment, Compromise, Trust, Communication and Connection. 

Basically four C's and a T. 

Love comes after. 

There is no satisfaction in Lust. 

There is no satisfaction in giving 'your all' to someone who is not loyal.

I find it hard to see people falling madly in love, holding someone so high up that they lose sight of why we are here. 

The people we meet in life are those who we aid and who aid us, who work with us and who we mutually hold up and continue to motivate. 

But they should not be put on a pedestal where they are the only reason for us to live.  

We need to seek something more than that. We need to seek our a partner in life, someone who you want to succeed, to grow with, to enter Jannah (paradise) with. 

We need to want more than this mediocre lust. 

We need to use the full extent of our hearts, minds and souls.

Not expand the holes in our heart.